(Q&A) Colleges, Universities, Relationships

Question:


Should I commit long term in college/university, or is life to hectic to have a stable relationship?

Brent White (Surrey, BC)

Answer:

Well Brent, this really depends on you. College/University students should probably be focused and dedicated if they aspire to achieve a higher degree such as a Masters, so if you have high goals but are the type to easily get distracted then it would be best to stay away from relationships until later on. Maintaining a long term relationship in College/University is all about being able to prioritize your life. What is more important, love or education? I will admit, it's true that most love marriages stem from college/university as most of the people have matured with age and have motives different then the ones they did in high school. Instead of just wanting sex, people want to get involved with another person on a level deeper then purely physical relations. Now it really all boils down to a few simple questions, are you ready to commit? How much faith do you have in your relationship? I think you shouldn't commit til later on in college and spend your earlier years just living life. Try to get with girls/guys, party and experience the things you won't be able to when you're in a relationship. A lot of times people rush into commitment without ever experiencing a lot of things in their lives. You should only commit to a person seriously if you know that you've "lived" and will be able to handle college plus the things in a relationship. Think about these things and then make your next step.

**Please note that this is MY opinion on this matter. If you disagree with me feel free to post what you think is right! :)

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(Q&A) When should couples start having sex?

Question:

When should a couple start having sex in their relationship? 

- Anonymous (Chicago, Illinois)

Answer:

Sex is something that's seen with many different perspectives. Some see it as a sacred ritual between lovers, while some have sex for leisure. In a lot of cultures, such as mine, it’s taboo to have sex before marriage, while in other cultures, sex is meaningless and you can just approach women in a bar to get it. Due to all these different factors and views on sex there’s no average time when couples first have sex. It really depends on the people, how they were brought up and their beliefs. If they’re from a religious home chances are that they share the same views so they are less likely to have sex, while if someone was more exposed to the media and had a more active social life, they would be more prone to have sex. If you are both virgins, there’s no such thing as first time driver’s insurance for sex. If you lose your virginity you can’t get it back or repair any damage done. That’s why virgin couples are hesitant in having sex and more likely to wait until marriage. They don't want to lose their virginity and regret it forever.. You have to visualize both ends of the spectrum for sex, there's the good and the bad. I'm no expert but I feel that you should start having sex once you are comfortable in your relationship and are satisfied with your partner. By satisfied I don’t mean satisfaction in bed, I'm talking about happiness and the overall health of your relationship.  You just have to stay protected because AIDs is one of the worst STDs to have, you have to be smart and not let your emotions control your decisions and make sure you're ready. Saying no to sex does not mean you are settling for less in a relationship, it means you are doing what you want and not having your decisions effected by pressure and THAT's what matters most when it comes to sex.

Why yes, yes I am.

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